Change Your Life, Not Your Wife Book Review

Are you winning at work, but failing at home? You can still save your marriage before it’s too late! Divorce is everywhere; especially among high-achieving and success-driven people, who sometimes leave a trail of broken relationships in their wake. In Change Your life Not Your wife, psychologist Dr. Tony Ferretti and physician Dr. Peter Weiss demystify why the same character traits that drive career success can also destroy families. Using true-to-life examples, they examine the perils of being achievement or power-oriented in intimate relationships, and how those relationships can get better. They demonstrate that when couples start to work through their issues, dramatic improvement and healing are possible. 


Change Your Life, Not Your Wife will: 
• Reveal why emotional immaturity and self-absorption are common among the powerful. 
• Share ways beneficial traits in the workplace – competitiveness, drive, perfectionism, control, and a critical eye – cause destruction at home. 
• Explore how your current behavior in relationships has been shaped by your childhood experiences. 
• Provide simple exercises to help you evaluate your marriage. 
• Offer actionable advice on turning around marriages on the brink of self-destruction. 
• Discuss why you must first change your own behavior if you want to impact your spouse’s behavior. 


Reading Change Your Life, Not Your Wife can produce breakthrough transformations in your marriage. This provocative book will challenge and encourage you to start on the road to improving your relationships.


My Thoughts:  Targeted for the male audience, Change Your Life, Not Your Wife offers some practical marital advice.  The self-assessment tools were well written and could help couple take a deeper look at how their individual behaviors affects their marriage.  Steve and Mary, the couple profiled in the book, struggle with many issues.  Steve had cheated on Mary.  They lost the intimacy their relationship once had.  There were feelings of abandonment, distrust and loneliness.  This marriage had been a wreck for awhile.  Change Your Life, Not Your Wife details how this couple was able to come to grips with a marriage on the brinks.  


The overall message throughout the book is that it is never too late to reconcile.  Reconciliation begins with acknowledgement and there are processes necessary to reconciliation.  I would recommend this book to couples who may be considering marital counseling.


Buy It:   Change Your Life, Not Your Wife is available on Amazon.  Click the logo below.

Disclosure: Many thanks to Cadence Group for providing a complimentary copy of this book for purposes of facilitating this review. The opinions expressed above are ours.  Click here for the Disclosure Policy of Three Boys and an Old Lady blog.